The building block of marriage…
Trust in marriage is the most important cornerstone of a happy, successful, intimate and fulfilling relationship…
Love and intimacy flourishes in an atmosphere of trust and dies when trust is non existent in relationships.
Many marriage commentators belief that trust should be established before a couple decide to marry or live together as loving partners.
Matters such as being honest with each other about past misdemeanors, past relationships, fears and concerns, your dreams for the future and so on.
Opening up to your future spouse in this way will provide the building blocks for an open, honest and trustworthy relationship.
Build upon this foundation of trust in your marriage by always treating your partner as an equal and never resorting to secretive behavior, put downs, or aggressiveness.
Trust in marriage can be destroyed by a simple action or word.
Sometimes it is better to give yourself space to cool down rather than to indulge in unproductive negative comment or criticism.
Rebuilding trust in a marriage.
If you have reason for changing your mind about the need to carry out a particular action discuss it with your partner. You may consider this to be a small matter but it is surprising for most people to learn that neglecting to involve their partner in decisions that concern you both can impact negatively on your trustworthiness and even lead to lack of respect.
Reliability is also something that many people have trouble with such as being on time for a date, for a meal, to pick up the kids, forgetting to make a purchase on the way home as you promised to do.
Reliability and trust in relationships go hand in hand, a person who is unreliable is also untrustworthy.
Trust in marriage can be broken in many ways of course. The most serious amongst these are hiding addictions such as alcohol or drug abuse and gambling… these invariably lead to financial problems which addicts always endeavor to hide.
For more information on this topic check out our article on serious marriage issues.
Then there is the most soul destroying concern of all.
Your partner is having AN AFFAIR the ultimate betrayal of trust in marriage. Approximately one in five men and one in six women have an extramarital affair at some time in their life. The numbers are even higher if emotional affairs are included.
An emotional affair can be even more threatening to a relationship than a physical affair, because the lover replaces the spouse as the primary source of emotional well-being and companionship.
Temptation is everywhere, and as men and women spend more time with each other away from their partners, giving into that temptation becomes easier.
Not meeting one another’s emotional needs is the single greatest cause of affairs. When relationships are struggling, both men and women look elsewhere to get their emotional needs met and easily find themselves in the arms of someone “who appreciates them.”
If your partner is unwilling to discuss the affair with you, refuses to stop seeing their lover, and accuses you of causing him or her to have the affair, you will have many challenges to overcome to get your marriage back together again.
Help is available right now.
Lack of trust in a marriage is definitely a major relationship killer. In her best selling guide “Save My Marriage Today” counselor and author Amy Waterman covers methods to resolve this particular issue and at the same time strengthen your relationship.
