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Trust in Marriage

Trust in Marriage

The building block of marriage...
Trust in marriage is the most important cornerstone of a happy, successful, intimate and fulfilling relationship...

Love flourishes in an atmosphere of trust and dies when trust is non existent in relationships.

Many marriage commentators belief that trust should be established before a couple decide to marry or live together as loving partners.

Matters such as being honest with each other about past misdemeanors, past relationships, fears and concerns, your dreams for the future and so on.

Opening up to your future spouse in this way will provide the building blocks for an open, honest and trustworthy relationship.

Build upon this foundation of trust in your marriage by always treating your partner as an equal and never resorting to secretive behavior, put downs, or aggressiveness. Trust in marriage can be destroyed by a simple action or word.

Sometimes it is better to give yourself space to cool down rather than to indulge in unproductive negative comment or criticism.

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Trust rebuilding - regaining trust in marriage.

If you have reason for changing your mind about the need to carry out a particular action discuss it with your partner. You may consider this to be a small matter but it is surprising for most people to learn that neglecting to involve their partner in decisions that concern you both can impact negatively on your trustworthiness and even lead to lack of respect.

Reliability is also something that many people have trouble with such as being on time for a date, for a meal, to pick up the kids, forgetting to make a purchase on the way home as you promised to do.

Reliability and trust in relationships go hand in hand, a person who is unreliable is also untrustworthy.

Trust in marriage can be broken in many ways of course. The most serious amongst these are hiding addictions such as alcohol or drug abuse and gambling ... these invariably lead to financial problems which addicts always endeavor to hide.

For more information on this topic check out our article on serious marriage issues.

Then there is the most soul destroying concern of all.

Your partner is having AN AFFAIR the ultimate betrayal of trust in marriage. Approximately one in five men and one in six women have an extramarital affair at some time in their life. The numbers are even higher if emotional affairs are included.

An emotional affair can be even more threatening to a relationship than a physical affair, because the lover replaces the spouse as the primary source of emotional well-being and companionship.

Temptation is everywhere, and as men and women spend more time with each other away from their partners, giving into that temptation becomes easier.

Not meeting one another's emotional needs is the single greatest cause of affairs. When relationships are struggling, both men and women look elsewhere to get their emotional needs met and easily find themselves in the arms of someone "who appreciates them."

If your partner is unwilling to discuss the affair with you, refuses to stop seeing their lover, and accuses you of causing him or her to have the affair, you will have many challenges to overcome to get your marriage back together again.

Help is available

Lack of trust in a marriage is another relationship killer. In her guide "Save My Marriage Today" Amy Waterman covers methods to resolve this particular issue and at the same time strengthen your relationship.

Check it out here: "Save My Marriage Today"

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A selection of messages

Hi Brad & Michelle...
My wife left me just over three months ago and for the last several weeks I have been trying really hard to get her back.
I just wanted you to know that she has now come home and we have made up.
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to all my emails with suggestions and support.
I believe that my following your advice to the letter made all the difference and most definitely led to her change of heart. 
Vic Garrett
Memphis TN
USA

Hello Michelle...
I wonder if you remember the occasion last month when I emailed you about my partner cheating on me?
I have to admit that I was really in a state of shock because we have always had such a great relationship - lots of fun and intimacy. 
He said that he really loved me and that he stupidly just gave in to temptation. 
You pointed me in the right direction and I am very grateful for your advice.
I have now given Ryan another chance to redeem himself. Hopefully he won't let me down again.
Very kind regards
Olivia Jedicke
Brooklyn NY
USA

Dear Brad & Michelle... 
This is short message to let you know that after following your advice Richard and I have patched up our differences.
I know that it is not going to be a smooth ride but we are both keen to start over again and work hard on keeping our family together.
Your help is really appreciated.
Cynthia Gladding
Vancouver BC
Canada

Hi Brad...
When I last emailed you I must admit that I was really quite despondent about whether it was possible for my wife and I to patch up our long standing and quite serious differences.
Thank you for putting me back on track. You made me realize that I was the one at fault and that a total change in attitude was required.
Now my wife says that she can't believe how I have been able to transform myself back into the person that I used to be so many years ago.
I'm so grateful for your help.
Jon Finlayson
Sydney NSW
Aust

Hi Michelle & Brad...
When you emailed me back with your advice on how I should approach the matter of my husband's growing and very concerning indifference to me and the children I must admit that initially I wasn't convinced that your unusual tactic would work.
However I gave it a go and hey presto - what a difference a day makes.
All of a sudden he has opened up to me and we are now back on the same wavelength.
Thanks a million guys.
Linley Whittaker
Auckland
NZ 

Hi Michelle...
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for giving me the encouragement to sort out our marriage issues.
I've got to say that it has been an uphill struggle but I think that we are getting there at last.
James has even suggested that we go away for a romantic break.- I didn't think that he had a romantic bone left in his body. The change in his attitude is utterly amazing.
Thank you once again.
Holly Wilding
Tallahassee FL
USA
  


 

 

 

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