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Stopping Divorce

Understanding divorce - and the alternatives...
Stopping DivorceIn the western world, it is a sad fact that almost more marriages end in divorce than those that survive...

A couple of generations ago the wedding vow "till death do us part" was a genuine commitment that both parties to a marriage took seriously.

Unfortunately for a variety of reasons that is not often the case today and many couples are just not interested in learning about stopping a divorce and making an attempt to breathe fresh life into their marriage.

Take a look at our recommended marriage guides, each one of them covers the following very important issues in detail:

  • How to stop a divorce.
  • Divorce with children.
  • Coping with divorce.
  • Adultery and divorce.
  • Mediation for divorce.

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Nobody ever said it would be easy.

Nothing prepares you for the life change that you undertake in marriage. Nobody said it was going to be a bed of roses and that all days and nights will be perfect and that marital bliss will last forever.

There is no manual that comes with the marriage license that tells you how to make things work or how the process of stopping divorce can be managed.

However if there is will on both sides of a relationship there are positive steps that can be taken to stop a divorce and strengthen the bond between a couple.

First. - If the marriage has become humdrum or a little stale, try dating each other again. Make the effort to do some of the things you did when you were courting … take in a movie, walk in the park, kiss each other on parting and coming together, get away for a romantic weekend together without the kids.

Second. - If there is a reason for your marital problems you both need to recognize and discuss the problems and see if a solution can be worked through together. If you need help to do this then get it.

Third. - Make an effort to tell your partner how much you appreciate them. We all neglect to compliment our spouses on their efforts, often to the point where they may become resentful and feel that they are being taken for granted. You would be surprised how often this comment surfaces in marriage counseling sessions.

Fourth. - Communicate in a caring way by both words and deeds. Share your plans and dreams, touch each other in a loving way and regularly tell each other that you love them. Couples all over the globe give up on their marriages every year, and many do so needlessly. If they knew what to do to open the lines of communication and talk to their partners, they could save themselves a lot of stress and heartache.

Fifth. - Make time for each other even if you have to schedule it. Many couples have a routine whereby they set aside a certain evening at home sitting together with a glass or two of wine and watch a movie. Others have a specific night set aside for intimacy, others plan exclusive times for family and picnics together. Don’t be concerned that you feel that your life is not spontaneous anymore, it’s important to set goals around what you consider are necessary to assist with the survival of your marriage.

With so many marriages breaking up every year and the resulting effect it has on families, it is important that you should at least try stopping the possibility of divorce and give yourself and your marriage every opportunity to succeed.

"When a man and a woman are able to decode each other, they can truly learn to compromise and negotiate ... when they are unable to decode each other, their relationship comes to grief."
-Anon

Make the decision NOW to stop your divorce

When you are on the edge of divorce but desperately want to prevent it from happening, it is often difficult to know who you should turn to for real guidance. You may have tried the techniques that we have outlined above but nothing seems to be working. If you are in this situation we highly recommend a marriage guide that has helped countless couples step back from the brink of divorce and go on to lead happy successful marriages. Amy Waterhouse has teamed up with a marriage counselor, two relationship coaches, a clinical psychologist and a dating expert to compile such a marriage guide.

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A selection of messages

Hi Brad & Michelle...
My wife left me just over three months ago and for the last several weeks I have been trying really hard to get her back.
I just wanted you to know that she has now come home and we have made up.
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to all my emails with suggestions and support.
I believe that my following your advice to the letter made all the difference and most definitely led to her change of heart. 
Vic Garrett
Memphis TN
USA

Hello Michelle...
I wonder if you remember the occasion last month when I emailed you about my partner cheating on me?
I have to admit that I was really in a state of shock because we have always had such a great relationship - lots of fun and intimacy. 
He said that he really loved me and that he stupidly just gave in to temptation. 
You pointed me in the right direction and I am very grateful for your advice.
I have now given Ryan another chance to redeem himself. Hopefully he won't let me down again.
Very kind regards
Olivia Jedicke
Brooklyn NY
USA

Dear Brad & Michelle... 
This is short message to let you know that after following your advice Richard and I have patched up our differences.
I know that it is not going to be a smooth ride but we are both keen to start over again and work hard on keeping our family together.
Your help is really appreciated.
Cynthia Gladding
Vancouver BC
Canada

Hi Brad...
When I last emailed you I must admit that I was really quite despondent about whether it was possible for my wife and I to patch up our long standing and quite serious differences.
Thank you for putting me back on track. You made me realize that I was the one at fault and that a total change in attitude was required.
Now my wife says that she can't believe how I have been able to transform myself back into the person that I used to be so many years ago.
I'm so grateful for your help.
Jon Finlayson
Sydney NSW
Aust

Hi Michelle & Brad...
When you emailed me back with your advice on how I should approach the matter of my husband's growing and very concerning indifference to me and the children I must admit that initially I wasn't convinced that your unusual tactic would work.
However I gave it a go and hey presto - what a difference a day makes.
All of a sudden he has opened up to me and we are now back on the same wavelength.
Thanks a million guys.
Linley Whittaker
Auckland
NZ 

Hi Michelle...
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for giving me the encouragement to sort out our marriage issues.
I've got to say that it has been an uphill struggle but I think that we are getting there at last.
James has even suggested that we go away for a romantic break.- I didn't think that he had a romantic bone left in his body. The change in his attitude is utterly amazing.
Thank you once again.
Holly Wilding
Tallahassee FL
USA
  


 

 

 

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