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Romantic Lovers

Creating romance...
Love and Romance is the lifeblood of a successful marriage...

Romantic loversOf course there are times when neither spouse feels particularly romantic toward the other especially after a disagreement ... this is part of the swings and roundabouts of married life. It is important to put disagreements quickly behind you, never let them fester, after all your spouse is the person that means the most to you.

Romantic lovers are not only concerned about sex.

As a couple gets older, sex plays a less important but nevertheless essential role in a loving relationship. Never let love die, always be romantic lovers.

Romance in marriage is an essential ingredient. Tell each other on a daily basis that you love them, always respect their opinions and attitudes and endeavor to compromise when there is a degree of conflict of opinion on a matter. We have known couples who just couldn't let go and refused to communicate sometimes for weeks on end.

Check out our article on married relationships.

Some romantic tips for men.

Do and say what is important to her, from complimenting her on her looks to telling her that you appreciate the way she prepares the meals and looks after the kids. In particular make sure that you tell her how very important she is to you and how you admire her. Pick the right time to compliment your wife otherwise she may feel that you have an ulterior motive ... we're sure that readers will know what we mean.

Ensure that she gets some quality time to herself without the children ... it's pretty tough being a mother and looking after a household. Get her to relax after dinner, clear the table and look after the dinner dishes, bathe the kids and read to them. There are a multiplicity of ways that men can take the pressure of the daily grind away from their wives.

Some romantic tips for women.

Men also need to be assured that they are loved. Make the effort to tell him how much you love him and that you appreciate his particular role as a husband and father. Quote examples to back up your comments. Enquire about his day at work and praise him for any positive contributions he has made in the work place and around the home.

"I love you".

These are words that both men and women love to hear, don't just repeat them like a mantra but really mean it. Whisper sweet nothings to each other, hold hands, touch each other - even a light pat on the shoulder conveys a romantic message. Romantic lovers should tell each other constantly how much they value and appreciate their relationship.

Some people do have some difficulty in saying "I love you" so how about saying "I love all the things you do for me", "I love you putting your arms around me", I love the way you dress", "I have always loved the way you have looked after yourself" and so on. Of course the "three little words" have more impact and convey a more loving message.

With a little practice, those who have found "I love you" difficult to say, discover that they will slip off the tongue quite easily.

Consider having romantic candle lit meals together ... appropriately dressed!! You don't need to wait for a special occasion to do this. If for some reason that's not possible at home, get in a babysitter and go out on a date together to a quiet restaurant then perhaps take in a romantic movie.

"We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love."
-Tom Robbins

Sex is an important part of a marriage.

Frequency is not so important - what is important is that both partners are in the mood for this most intimate of acts. The preparation for lovemaking can start many hours prior to the act itself ... perhaps even with a subtle suggestion in the morning as the couple say their goodbyes.

If your marital intimacy has become rather routine how about trying to spice it up a little by firstly showering, or bathing in a soapy bubble bath together with a glass of wine at hand and perhaps by dimming the lighting and having soft music playing.

Some of our clients have found that their lovemaking has improved by avoiding the bedroom and making love on the couch, on the floor in front of the fire ... and so on.

"The way we treat each other outside the bedroom affects what happens inside the bedroom."
-Anon

 
For those of you who are really serious about restoring or enhancing the love, romance and intimacy in your marriage you will find it of real benefit to employ the techniques described in Dr Lee Baucom's widely acclaimed "Save The Marriage eBook". Baucom is a professional Marriage Guidance Counselor and relationship expert.
 

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A selection of messages

Hi Brad & Michelle...
My wife left me just over three months ago and for the last several weeks I have been trying really hard to get her back.
I just wanted you to know that she has now come home and we have made up.
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to all my emails with suggestions and support.
I believe that my following your advice to the letter made all the difference and most definitely led to her change of heart. 
Vic Garrett
Memphis TN
USA

Hello Michelle...
I wonder if you remember the occasion last month when I emailed you about my partner cheating on me?
I have to admit that I was really in a state of shock because we have always had such a great relationship - lots of fun and intimacy. 
He said that he really loved me and that he stupidly just gave in to temptation. 
You pointed me in the right direction and I am very grateful for your advice.
I have now given Ryan another chance to redeem himself. Hopefully he won't let me down again.
Very kind regards
Olivia Jedicke
Brooklyn NY
USA

Dear Brad & Michelle... 
This is short message to let you know that after following your advice Richard and I have patched up our differences.
I know that it is not going to be a smooth ride but we are both keen to start over again and work hard on keeping our family together.
Your help is really appreciated.
Cynthia Gladding
Vancouver BC
Canada

Hi Brad...
When I last emailed you I must admit that I was really quite despondent about whether it was possible for my wife and I to patch up our long standing and quite serious differences.
Thank you for putting me back on track. You made me realize that I was the one at fault and that a total change in attitude was required.
Now my wife says that she can't believe how I have been able to transform myself back into the person that I used to be so many years ago.
I'm so grateful for your help.
Jon Finlayson
Sydney NSW
Aust

Hi Michelle & Brad...
When you emailed me back with your advice on how I should approach the matter of my husband's growing and very concerning indifference to me and the children I must admit that initially I wasn't convinced that your unusual tactic would work.
However I gave it a go and hey presto - what a difference a day makes.
All of a sudden he has opened up to me and we are now back on the same wavelength.
Thanks a million guys.
Linley Whittaker
Auckland
NZ 

Hi Michelle...
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for giving me the encouragement to sort out our marriage issues.
I've got to say that it has been an uphill struggle but I think that we are getting there at last.
James has even suggested that we go away for a romantic break.- I didn't think that he had a romantic bone left in his body. The change in his attitude is utterly amazing.
Thank you once again.
Holly Wilding
Tallahassee FL
USA
  


 

 

 

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