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Marriage Affairs

Marriage Affairs

Examining extramarital affairs...
Recent surveys in the United States have put the percentage of marriage affairs involving sexual activity variously between 15-35% for women and 22-40% for men...

However, it is entirely possible that the real percentage of sexual encounters is nearer the lower end with both sexes, and that the higher figures include emotional affairs as well as those involving intimacy.

Be that as it may, there is an increasing percentage of both sexes indulging in extramarital relationships. Temptation is everywhere, but as men and women spend more time with each other away from their partners, in work place, social and sporting situations and so on, giving into that temptation and cheating on your partner becomes easier and easier.

It is an unfortunate fact that cheating women are almost as responsible for marriage break ups as are cheating men. Marriage affairs are so common that you or your spouse are more likely to have an affair than you are to divorce. And your chances of divorce are already 50-50.

Marriage affairs are devastating to almost everyone involved. It's a most painful experience for the innocent spouse and it is also very painful for the children, friends and members of the extended family.

Signs of an affair - where to look.

Affairs in marriage usually begin with an attraction to someone you know fairly well, someone you spend time with each week, a friend or co-worker.

Check out our article on signs of cheating.

What sets off a marriage affair?

The reasons are many and varied. We have dealt with many couples, where either the male or female had been involved in a sexual encounter outside their marriage yet they were entirely happy with their marital relationship prior to the event. - The straying partner just simply gave into temptation.

A very common cause of marriage affairs is that the partners are simply not meeting one another's emotional needs so they look for fulfillment elsewhere. Emotional upset caused by an inability to deal with stress will often turn a spouse towards another more sympathetic person if their partner is not able, or capable, of providing the necessary emotional support.

Ending an affair before it begins.

If you feel that your spouse is under stress then discuss it with them. It may relate to financial, family, job, or child matters. Let your partner know that they are appreciated. Determine what you can do to meet their emotional needs and take it from there.

We are all aware that the world is in turmoil at the moment and that in order for many people to keep their jobs they are expected to work longer hours. This naturally means less time spent with the family...a position that is exacerbated by a job that requires a spouse to spend periods away traveling on business.

If you and your spouse spend long periods of time away from one another, you need to develop a plan of action to maintain your bond and sense of intimacy during those times. Keeping in touch by email and/or cellphone with messages and expressions of love is a practical way to achieve this.

Couples who fail to maintain an intimate bond with each other invariably set the scene for one or other being involved in an extramarital relationship.

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A selection of messages

Hi Brad & Michelle...
My wife left me just over three months ago and for the last several weeks I have been trying really hard to get her back.
I just wanted you to know that she has now come home and we have made up.
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to all my emails with suggestions and support.
I believe that my following your advice to the letter made all the difference and most definitely led to her change of heart. 
Vic Garrett
Memphis TN
USA

Hello Michelle...
I wonder if you remember the occasion last month when I emailed you about my partner cheating on me?
I have to admit that I was really in a state of shock because we have always had such a great relationship - lots of fun and intimacy. 
He said that he really loved me and that he stupidly just gave in to temptation. 
You pointed me in the right direction and I am very grateful for your advice.
I have now given Ryan another chance to redeem himself. Hopefully he won't let me down again.
Very kind regards
Olivia Jedicke
Brooklyn NY
USA

Dear Brad & Michelle... 
This is short message to let you know that after following your advice Richard and I have patched up our differences.
I know that it is not going to be a smooth ride but we are both keen to start over again and work hard on keeping our family together.
Your help is really appreciated.
Cynthia Gladding
Vancouver BC
Canada

Hi Brad...
When I last emailed you I must admit that I was really quite despondent about whether it was possible for my wife and I to patch up our long standing and quite serious differences.
Thank you for putting me back on track. You made me realize that I was the one at fault and that a total change in attitude was required.
Now my wife says that she can't believe how I have been able to transform myself back into the person that I used to be so many years ago.
I'm so grateful for your help.
Jon Finlayson
Sydney NSW
Aust

Hi Michelle & Brad...
When you emailed me back with your advice on how I should approach the matter of my husband's growing and very concerning indifference to me and the children I must admit that initially I wasn't convinced that your unusual tactic would work.
However I gave it a go and hey presto - what a difference a day makes.
All of a sudden he has opened up to me and we are now back on the same wavelength.
Thanks a million guys.
Linley Whittaker
Auckland
NZ 

Hi Michelle...
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for giving me the encouragement to sort out our marriage issues.
I've got to say that it has been an uphill struggle but I think that we are getting there at last.
James has even suggested that we go away for a romantic break.- I didn't think that he had a romantic bone left in his body. The change in his attitude is utterly amazing.
Thank you once again.
Holly Wilding
Tallahassee FL
USA
  


 

 

 

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